Generational Curses

Your generational curses become their 401k

Stop buying into your own detriment. They call it hereditary or genetics so that our maladaptive (fcked up) behaviors will become profitable generational curses. Diagnoses are made by self-reports or observations, that are always based on behaviors. Behaviors, we know are taught… most of the time by our parents… you see where this is going?

I was told my entire life “You are just like your mother”. Well fcking duh, she raised me. I love my mother, and yes, I absolutely am just like her. Which is cool just not when its used as an “appropriate dis”.  Her struggles with mental illness became her badge of shame, and daughter like mother, they became mine too. Her negative thinking patterns became my inner voice. Her explosive or erratic behavior became my normal. I was taught crazy… you know... Unintentionally, like most.

I didn’t know it was abnormal to emotionally blackmail people, until I was in my 20s. I was taught it was "ok" to express every feeling you get, major, minor, or irrelevant, by modeling. (Modeling= monkey see, monkey do) Even polar opposite emotions were ok to display… minutes apart. Erratic displays of emotions and rapid changes in behavior are all symptoms used to diagnosis different disorders. Once these behaviors evolve into a diagnoses,  you become a customer. Those sneaky people will promise you a easier life no... a "normal" life by simply taking a pill. I bought into it. Like my mother bought into it, and many others.

Now imagine if I were taught emotion regulation techniques?  Not once were coping strategies mentioned when diagnosing me. No one asked if I’d ever been taught healthy ways to express my pain. Nope, their only concern was my insurance. So I engaged in counseling- and it saved my life. Seeing myself as healthy and sane was freeing. Learning to change my OWN life, by being in control of my OWN emotions made all the difference. Unlike their medication, talk therapy was meant to help and heal, not just treat. Prozac is a billion dollar industry and growing. Passing down maladaptive behaviors + buying into your own illness = a big business.

All this to say, check yourself before you not only wriggity-wreck yourself- but the generations to follow. Truth is power.

Peace + love

Yannie